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Kind words to your spouse!

Proverbs 16:24
“Kind words are like honey–sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

Kind words is sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. Being kind is being considerate, respectful, gracious and loving in your words and your actions. Your spouse is valuable and deserves kindness from you.

Some treat their spouse as if they are slaves. They communicate in a very rude way and they actions towards their spouse is so harsh. It’s so painful to see. When you don’t value a person, you tend to be disrespectful, harsh and rude towards them.

Let me say this, I am not kind to my spouse because of something she does for me. No! I am kind to her because she is made in the image and likeness of God, the mighty Holy Spirit lives in her and she is my wife. She doesn’t have to earn my kindness. Your spouse shouldn’t have to earn your kindness. Jesus was kind towards us even when we were ungodly, sinners and weak. He gave His life for us and demonstrated His kindness towards us. The Lord has been so kind to you therefore you must be kind to your spouse. You cannot love without kindness, it’s impossible because Love is kind.

Proverbs 15: 1
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but hard words stir up anger.”

When you make a decision to be kind to your spouse, you are actually building up your spouse and your marriage in a positive way. The Apostle Paul says, let no corrupt communication come from your mouth, only that which is edifying to others and ministers grace to them. Speak words that build people up, not words that destroy them. This must begin in the house first. Harsh words are like fuel and they will stir up anger. You can disagree and still be respectful. Sometimes, husbands have a difficult time receiving corrections from their wives. They think somehow they are better than their wives and refuse to consider their views. Listen, your wife correcting you doesn’t lower your value. Also, some wives look down on their husbands and it doesn’t help the marriage either. Remember, we are one team and we become better and better together. Never devalue your spouse.

Proverbs 15:4
“Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”

Whether in private or in public, speak kindly to your spouse and speak gently about your spouse. Some are very kind to outsiders but inside the house with their spouses, they are so sarcastic, critical and irritating. Your spouse is valuable and precious. I never tolerate, entertain or repeat negative words about my spouse. I don’t have death words for my spouse. I only have love words and grace words for her. She is my wife!

When my wife wants to buy vegetables, she will say, “Shall we go out to buy vegetables?” Other times, “Shall we pray? You are a great blessing to me. You are so precious to me. You are my world. Thank you”

It’s never in a demanding or critical way, “We are going out now! You better come with me. We are praying now! Why are you so lazy? You are good for nothing. You are so useless? Why am I married to you? May be I married the wrong person” These words will destroy your marriage from within and it will manifest in a very dry and boring marriage relationship.

Beloved, be kind to your spouse. Be kind daily. Be kind in little things. Be kind in the house. Be kind in public. Kindness is so integral in having a blissful marriage.

God bless you!

Have a blissful marriage!

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